The quantum aspect of your relationship lays the foundation for the quality of interactions, conver-sations and fulfillment you experience on a daily basis with your partner. Are satisfied with your relationship? If not, let's briefly look at the unseen energy culprits that could be corrupting and hijacking your relationship without your conscious awareness.

The quantum aspect of your relationship involves the energy deposits you make with your thoughts, emotions and intentions. Stop for just a moment and consider the type of energy deposits you are making into your relationship. For instance, are you depositing nurturing or not-so nurturing energies (acceptance, love, understanding vs. criticalness, shame, unhappiness)? Are you responding with patience or impatience? Are you focusing on the what you don't like or what you do like? Do you forgive and forget quickly or hold on to and obsess? Do you take responsibility for your actions or do you project and blame? Even when you can justify harsh actions, do you treat your partner with respect? Do you take time to compliment and praise or let them know what s/he didn't do?

These are just a few examples of the energy deposits you could be making into the bank of your intimate relationship. Many times the deposits are executed with swiftness and little thought as to the quantum effect on the supporting structure of the relationship. Sometimes it is an ineffective habit we developed long ago. Whatever the case, for the sake of your relationship take a moment to update on your energy deposits.

Relationships are fed energetically. The energies come from the looks we give our partner or the seemingly innocuous gestures we make when interacting with our loved one. Even the way we touch our partner exchanges energies with their spirit. How about our attitudes? Can they be felt? Yes. Can our thoughts cause harm to our relationship and our partner? Yes. Can 'nice' words hide nasty energies? No.

Here are some 10 suggestions of how to change the types of energy deposits you are making into your relationship:

1. Decide on the types of energies you want supporting your relationship and begin depositing these energies into your relationship via your thoughts, actions, attitudes and emotions (i.e. happiness, respect, admiration, trust, acceptance).

2. Become mindful of what your partner's energies are saying and rather than judge, ask questions and approach with an intent to learn and understand.

3. If you are harboring resentment, hurt feelings, angst or unforgiveness, choose to learn what you need to do to be able to forgive and move on.

4. Quiet your mind and listen from your Heart.

5. Become more conscious of the energies you are sliding in with your looks, attitudes, gestures, beliefs, perceptions, assumptions and words (i.e. look in the mirror after an interaction with your partner and notice if your 'look' matches what you think it would be).

6. Touch your partner on the shoulder, hand and back with the energies of appreciation, love, gratitude, acknowledgment and recognition.

7. Avoid 'you are' statements that carry the energies of judgment, accusation, blame and non-acceptance.

8. Pay attention to the types of thoughts you hold in your mind about your partner—these thought forms are alive and do have an affect on your partner and the relationship.

9. Notice how you talk about your relationship and your partner to others as this energy will not only be felt by partner but also accumulate in the relationship and become an energy that is either supportive or non-supportive of the relationship.

10. Avoid trying to 'win' and 'be right' as these energies create energy walls and dividers in the relationship. After enough of these dynamics, the relationship does not have much room to move or grow.